Monday, February 16, 2009


We went to our first appointment with our adoption consultant, and it would be an understatement if I said that the meeting was overwhelming. The cost with this process is just ludacris! My hubby is adopted and it only cost his parents $300 in 1968, and we're estimating the cost of the adoption around $40,000 (and possibly more if the birthmother changes her mind, and we have to start over). We did get some flack for the sex preference, and we're really trying to stick to our guns on this subject. We're flexible on the race issue, but I really want a girl!

Oddly, the adoption consultant says that it works really well in our favor that we have no other biological children, can no longer have children, and Lily's story...Which if we didn't have any of those 3 factors than we wouldn't even be in her office.

This was our first real meeting to seriously discuss our adoption desires, and this meeting has left us with even more to evaluate.


E and K Rausch said...

wow that is harsh.....I mean really if you wanted to adopt and didnt have a child pass away and could still have children but are choosing to adopt you could not adopt....hmmmm

mlg- believe N miracles said...

what a slap in the face, it shouldnt matter how you got there, it should matter that you want to give a child a loving home, it just stabs you in the heart all over again. i am sorry.

Mrs. Mother said...

Wow, that is a lot of money to give a child a home. It's absolutely outrageous. My friend was out of pocket about $10,000 for her daughters around 20 years ago.

I've also heard it's more favorable if you don't have any living children and can't have any either. That's a huge slap in the face, honestly.