Thursday, January 22, 2009

Ready...set...go...

I posted back in November about my hubby and I deciding that we were ready for adoption, but then decided to wait until I spoke to the specialist about the possiblity of another pregnancy in MY body...well, we all know how that went~

So, I contacted the adoption consultants that we're working with to go ahead and set up the "official" list of what we do and don't want for a birthmother, what we will be comfortable with as far as contact with the birthmother goes, and yes...even our preference of the baby's sex. I've put a lot of thought into the whole baby's sex issue...

And, I've pretty much decided that we're going to tell them that we would PREFER a girl...when I was pregnant I had to tell people the whole "I don't care what the sex of the baby is as long as it is healthy" business, which of course is the most important thing...but, now that I'm having to pay nearly $40,000 to get what some teenagers get from fooling around in a toyota...I'm prepared for a girl materially and emotionally, and I may have to wait a little bit longer for a baby, but after all we've been through already~ what's a few extra months? Some people may not agree with this decision, but I don't really care. We would love a baby boy just as much, but he may not want to sleep in the pink and brown ladybugs nursery that is set up, or wear all the girly clothes that are still in the dresser in the nursery.

Its hard letting go of getting pregnant again, but life must go on~

6 comments:

Jessica said...

I don't think anyone should have anything to say about your preference for a girl. It makes perfect logical sense when you already have girl stuff!

Beth said...

I can totally understand the girl thing. You had your hopes up for a girl - it's what you thought you were having. I hope that you do get your girl one day. Of course, you have Lily too. :) It's also logical, of course!

E and K Rausch said...

My mom keeps saying that kenner is up in heaven waiting to send us his little sister.......I would prefer another boy. I have all this boy stuff i was prepared for a boy. So if I were to get pregnant again I would be happy with a girl, but I am sure she wont like the boy stuff I have for a baby. I think its perfectly ok to want a girl. Good luck with your Adoption.

Never forgetting Gregory said...

This is your decision and nobody has a right to judge you based upon it. I hope you get a little blessing as soon as possible.

mlg- believe N miracles said...

I hope you have a new family member to welcome really soon.

Mrs. Mother said...

I also agree with the others and understand the logic. I'm thinking if we get pregnant again, I would love to have a baby girl. I just feel like Tessa is always going to miss having a sister, so I would love for her to have another. And, you know what? If I was paying that much for something, I would want it to be exactly how I wanted it. I hope the adoption goes quickly.