Sunday, June 27, 2010

I don't know why I do it to myself~

I'm talking about those darn giving birth shows...

I've seen two different shows recently where there was a stillborn baby (both shows dealt with multiple births)that needed to be born which I was actually impressed with because Heaven forbid if we talk about the fact that not all pregnancies end up with pink or blue balloons on your mailbox and happiness jumping out your a-hole...Then they do stuff like the following...

Both of the births were c-sections and I'm totally assuming but I guess this is standard practice in higher multiple births. So, the first birth actually blurred out the dead baby...like blurred out like they do when a primetime show is showing nudity. The other show completely acted like the other baby didn't even come out as in completely moved to how much the live baby weighed and showed them ohhing and ahhing...

I was just so put out for the other baby! In fairness, I'm sure it's a crazy emotion to have one baby to come out screaming into the world and know that your other baby won't make a sound...it was just the total censuring of the other baby that peeved me...

It's like how I was made to feel weird for carrying pics of Lily in my wallet...or, how some people didn't bother to come to Lily's memorial...Why is it so weird for a dead baby to be shown to the world??? Babies die people...fact of life...it sucks but it happens everyday!

I love to show my daughter...ask me anytime of the day and I will pull out the pic of her in my wallet...actually, it would be my pleasure to show you because she's beautiful in everyway...

8 comments:

Michelle Karr said...

I have an entire mini photo album in my purse. :) I think it is great that you have her picture in your wallet! I haven't seen any shows that have had stillbirths, but I know that would bother me now. I may have felt different before losing Janie Beth.

AKD said...

I used to get really weird looks when I would look at Maddie's picture when I was at work. :( It makes me so sad - I'm so sorry you get the same thing.

Trennia said...

I carry Emily's pictures in my wallet,in my van,all her pictures hang althrough our home.I wouldn't want,nor have it any other way.

Maggie said...

Oh wow, that would get under my skin too if I saw that show! Our pictures of Alexandra are in our living room, so whenever someone comes over, that's the first thing they see. Fortunately, I've only let the good people come over so far, so most of the time people want to go and look at her. :)(((HUGS))))

Bree said...

i saw those shows too. i wish i would have seen them before i lost ella, so i wouldn't have been so blindsided.

i've been thinking a lot lately how we are getting cards from people we haven't heard from in years. they couldn't send a freaking card when my baby died, but they send them now. sucky!

The Blue Sparrow said...

To me it feels like people just dont want to see our babies so they act like they werent even here, it's easier for them to pretend that they didnt. I love showing pictures of Bryston to anyone who will look. We're still proud mothers, we just happen to be grieving while still being proud. *HUGS*

Lori said...

I have an album in my purse too and show people any time I can. I don't care what people think. My child was beautiful and precious and WORTHY of celebration of his life...no matter the length.

I agree...it's so taboo...and I hate it. Denial doesn't mean it's not common.

Holly said...

I'm glad that stillbirth was mentioned but it kinda makes me upset that they would censor it. People need to see and know IMO!