Saturday, April 17, 2010



I found this image while playing on the internet last night and I thought about the truth of the words as I went to bed. I sometimes wonder how the people in real life feel when I post something about Lily on face.book...some of my "friends" on face.book are the same people that would quickly change the subject if Lily's name were brought up in conversation. I do know that they NEVER comment so the avoidance is universal. I know I've seen minds wander when I talk with various people about both of my pregnancy experiences. In fairness, I do have a lot of wonderful people in my life that allow me to talk about Lily whenever I want and I know that they aren't "uncomfortable" with my daughter's life.

Becoming a mommy to a baby on Earth hasn't changed the fact that I have a baby in Heaven. I recently read a post on my birthboard that was religion focused. The girl came out and said "people who have lost a baby believe in God because it makes them feel better to believe that their baby is in heaven rather than the baby becoming nothing..." (this isn't verbatim but is close enough) I do believe in God and honestly I can't allow myself to believe that Lily isn't in Heaven. I honestly don't know how I would make it through this life if I didn't have a reunion in glory in my vision...

I made a sign for Cooper's stroller for the March of Dimes's March for Babies next weekend that says "My big sister lives in Heaven" with Lily's name, birthdate, and gestation...

Mommy will never forget, precious one...

6 comments:

Melissa said...

I feel the same way about Face book and I am glad I have found some blog friends on there becuase it has made me a lot braver to put a few things up there - our angel babies are such a huge part of our lives to not be mentioning them does not feel right.

I love the idea of the sign, you will have to post a photo!

Lea said...

true, true words, Jen.... love to you... I have tears in my eyes. Amen

Maggie said...

I agree with Melissa. I'm so glad I found some blog friends on there too. Yes, I can't wait to see the sign you made! :)

Trennia said...

I totally understand, people act like you shouln't mention your child that is in heaven and it makes me sad.
I love mentioning Emily,Hunter and Heather...us that have loss children can honestly say our children are friends in heaven. That can't be said,here on earth not all our children would evn get along,but in heaven our babies are friends! I'm so glad I have a Saviour *Jesus Christ* and some sweet day I'll see my sweet babies!
sending ya (((HUGS)))

AKD said...

I have trepidations about posting things about Maddie sometimes, for the exact same reason. People are so uncomfortable with loss... but they are our children, our little girls.

Sending you hugs and love.

Holly said...

yes, too precious to forget!